Genesis 2:18-22
And the Lord God
said, “It is not good that
man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” 19 Out
of the ground the Lord God
formed every beast of the field and every bird of the air, and brought them to Adam to see what he
would call them. And whatever Adam called each living creature, that was its name. 20 So,
Adam gave names to all cattle, to the birds of the air, and to every beast of
the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper comparable to him. 21 And
the Lord God caused a
deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and
closed up the flesh in its place. 22 Then the rib which
the Lord God had taken
from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man.
God’s Counsel to Singles and Disciples:
- God’s assessment and conclusion that ‘it is
not good that man should be alone’ moves HIM to act; not our assessment of
being alone.
- Until I agree with Gen. 2:18a; I will not see
the need to marry or may enter into marriage with faulty foundations.
- God is the ONLY one qualified to make a help
meet suitable for our singles (personality or compatibility tests, speed
or online dating, co-habiting, investing in prayer house/mountain or
prayer contractors, seeing prophets, forcing or self moulding your
spouse to become something) are all fruitless efforts.
- The words 'I will make' (present continuous) gives us assurance that God
is always at work in our spouse both to will and to do HIS good pleasure.
The process of making is progressive and perpetual, such that both man and
woman can expand and complement each other whilst the need and labour
changes.
- Investment in other sources (books,
conferences, marriage counsellors etc.) which stem not from CHRIST, to 'make' our spouse only resorts to frustration.
- No man will ever find a comparable helper in
animals - at best they can only be good pets. Never best friends or even a
suitable help.
- God still desires that we sleep (rest in HIM) while He is making our spouse. Restlessness is a sign that we don’t trust GOD.
- Sometimes, wives feel insecure or irrelevant
in the marriage. God seem to be saying that your input/coming into your
husband’s life adds the ‘very good’ and completes him.
